There Is No Private Group Exception
By Cajetan
CNN published an investigation in March. A website had 62 million visitors in a single month. It existed to teach men how to drug and assault their partners. People used it to coordinate, share, and celebrate sexual assault against real people.
That's not a fringe story. That's a platform at scale, doing harm at scale.
We built theLove to be something different. Small, intentional, paid, ad-free, private. The people you actually want in your life. But "private" has never meant unaccountable, and this week felt like the right time to say that plainly.
What we updated
We added explicit language to our Safety Policy, Terms of Service, and Community Guidelines covering sexual violence facilitation. The short version: any content that promotes, coordinates, glorifies, or links to platforms built around sexual assault results in immediate account termination and referral to law enforcement.
That includes private groups.
We want to be clear about that. Privacy settings on theLove protect your content from the public internet. They do not create a space where different rules apply. Private groups are moderated. Content within them can be reviewed when there is reasonable suspicion of a violation. There are no exceptions.
We also use automated screening to flag terms and patterns associated with sexual violence. Flagged content goes to human review.
Why we're saying this out loud
Most platforms bury policy updates in a changelog nobody reads. We'd rather just tell you.
theLove is a paid community. That's partly about sustainability, but it's also about accountability. The people here chose to be here. That choice comes with responsibility, and so does ours.
We take it seriously.
The updated policies are live: Safety Policy, Terms of Service, Community Guidelines.